Ending the Trap: How Putting Myself First Increased My Performance at Work

For a long time, I had the misconception that working nonstop was the key to success. I sacrificed my relationships, mental health, and equilibrium in the process of pushing myself to my limits in pursuit of my professional aspirations. While I accomplished a lot, I should have paid more attention to the people and experiences that really mattered because I was too preoccupied with getting things done. I learned with time that success at the expense of one’s health couldn’t be maintained.

My mornings look drastically different now. At five in the morning, I make it a point to spend quality time with my loved one rather than rushing to work or responding to emails. Starting my day early allows me the opportunity to engage with others, have meaningful conversations, and share the small moments that create a great atmosphere. My self-care regimen now includes going out to play tennis with friends after this. As much as it is a kind of physical activity, tennis also provides a mental reset, a chance to relax, have fun with friends, and even compete occasionally. Coffee or brunch follows, allowing me to stay connected with friends I may otherwise lose touch with due to job commitments.

Choosing Meaningful Commitments Over Constant Work

In hindsight, the relentless concentration on work was lonely. My relationships took a hit because I was unable to spend quality time with loved ones. I couldn’t stop planning for the following meeting, deadline, or accomplishment. It helped me succeed to a point, but I’m not willing to pay the price anymore. Working smart is more important than working hard, and I learnt the hard way that working too much can be counterproductive at times.

I have significantly improved my work productivity since I started prioritising self-care. My thoughts are more precise, concentrated, and, above all, revitalised. Playing tennis first thing in the morning does more than relax my mind; it’s a full-body workout. Without the tension that muddled my thoughts, I can carry that energy into my day and get more done. I am now more confident in my abilities, approach my jobs with clarity, and make decisions more effectively. Since my body and mind are in a better condition to work, I am able to get more done in less time rather than staying up late.

Embracing Quality Over Quantity in Work and Relationships

My perspective on work has also changed as a result of this new equilibrium. Taking on tasks for the sake of it no longer piques my interest. I’ve made a conscious effort to surround myself with people who appreciate and value me, and I’ve begun to select tasks accordingly. For a long time, I was paralysed with fear of missing out on opportunities, so I would always say yes. Unfortunately, that way of thinking caused me to be overworked and to collaborate with people and companies who didn’t value my input.

Whenever anything doesn’t sit well with me, I now say no and am much more selective. Giving up the desire to constantly prove myself has been a freeing experience. Because of this, I’ve prioritised quality over quantity in my initiatives and relationships. I have learnt my lesson and will only remain in places where I am valued and acknowledged. My health, energy, and time are precious, and I’ve learnt to be careful with them.

Because of this change, my productivity is up, and I’m also happier overall. Though vital, work is no longer the be-all and end-all. Taking care of my mental and physical health and spending time with loved ones are now priorities on par with reaching professional goals. Interestingly, my job has blossomed in ways I never envisaged by focusing on these elements of my life. I am more fulfilled in life, have better problem-solving skills, and my creativity is through the roof.

Caring for myself didn’t seem selfish or wasteful when I was younger. On the other hand, it’s the most fruitful course of action I could have taken. When I get enough sleep, exercise, and maintain strong relationships with those around me, I am able to give my all at work. We both benefit.

Balance is more than just a phrase; it is the most important thing I learned on my trip. It is an essential component of long-term success. Engaging in self-care activities, such as sports, socialising, or simply enjoying leisure time, does not detract from work; rather, it enhances performance. The outcomes validate my newfound understanding of working smarter, not harder.

Now, I want to tell everyone who feels stuck in a rut to take stock of what’s really important to them. Your health is the most valuable thing you have. Putting money into it will have a multiplier effect on your life, improving your career and every area of it. You will begin to live and thrive when you end the overwork cycle.