Aging Well by George E. Vaillant.
Aging Well by George E. Vaillant. The Author. George E. Vaillant is a psychiatrist, professor and one of the world’s leading researchers on adult development and mental health. He’s most famous for leading the Harvard Study of Adult Development, one of the longest-running studies of human life ever, following participants for over 70 years. Vaillant’s research is focused on what really predicts happiness, health and resilience over the whole life course. His findings are based on decades of actual data about humans, not any theory or trends. He is revered for debunking myths about success, aging
15 Lessons from 15 Years of Leading a Mental Health Clinic
This year marks 15 years since I first opened the doors of Willingness. Honestly, I never imagined the journey would be quite like this. Back then, all I had was a vision, a stubborn sense of purpose, and the belief that Malta needed a space beyond therapy. It needed a hub for mental health, a place where people could come as they are and be met with care. Fifteen years later, the clinic has grown, changed, and survived challenges I never expected. And so have I. Running a mental health clinic is not just about clients, therapy rooms, or
Stay with the Feeling
I see that in the clinic every week and can see it in myself. The second a feeling snaps, we grab for the exit. A new playlist, a new job, a new partner — anything to outrun the pinch of sadness, anger, fear or disappointment. Yet research continues to tell us about the same thing: It becomes all the more powerful when we view our discomfort as the enemy. Phones provide an instant soothing tap, employment websites pledge greener offices and dating apps give the flick of a thumb to cancel out awkward silence. A recent multinational survey of
When Love Turns to Hate: Why Justice Must Stay in the Courtroom and Not Online
Working with couples and individuals whose marriage is on the brink of dissolution, a therapist by name, I have personally witnessed the full emotional journey of love, from intimacy and connection to disappointment, betrayal, and sometimes, rage. It is at these points of rupture that some serious allegations form: domestic violence, sexual harassment, parental alienation, coercive control. These are not abstract terms — these are actual, lived experiences — but the ways we act on them as a society are very important. In recent years, public platforms — TikTok, podcasts, Instagram — have emerged as the new courtrooms. Abuse
Stress at the Top
We often imagine business leaders are confident, driven and in control. They make huge decisions, push companies forward again and again, many times with the weight of others upon them. But in reality, there are an untold number of leaders who do it all while feeling isolated. In our new study through Willingness, in partnership with the Malta Chamber of Commerce, we posed a simple, if little discussed question – Who is taking care of the boss? The answers we received were something to behold. For all the ambition, conviction and sheer stubbornness behind much of Maltese business-class thinking,
True Leadership: The Courage to Be Disliked for the Right Reasons
Leadership, actually, requires the courage to be disliked for the right reasons. It doesn’t strive for popularity, applause, or compliments. Instead, it’s responsible for your team, the mission, and the future that you want the world to see. Discomfort, disapproval, and misunderstanding often ensue, but leaders take them directly. The rulers of history remembered those who made unpopular decisions so they served the greater good. Winston Churchill stood up to criticism for being too blunt and led the free world through a war. Nelson Mandela spent decades in prison, branded a terrorist, though never surrendered his dream of a
The Lonely Boss
We tend to think about business leaders as confident, driven, in control. They make decisions, they propel companies forward, they bear the weight of others. But many of them manage it all, feeling intensely isolated. In our recent research conducted through Willingness in collaboration with the Malta Chamber of Commerce, we put this simple but seldom asked question to the board: Who is taking care of the boss? The answers showed something profound. Hidden behind the exuberance and strength of so many Maltese leaders is a silently deepening sense of disconnection and emotional fatigue. Most leaders do not get
Who’s Taking Care of the Boss?
My team at Willingness and I took on an open question for years—a question that’s stuck around the boardroom or HR office or clinic for years: Who is taking care of the boss? As therapists, psychologists, business leaders and human beings, we’ve experienced the price leadership extracts, especially in the private sector of Malta. So, we decided to dig deeper. Rather, what followed was a study that combined data collection with lived experience. The results were eye-opening. Let’s begin by investigating the type of person who generally becomes a leader. Our data and psychological profiles painted a pattern: leaders
How Becoming Malta’s First Sex Therapist Changed Me as a Man
When I started this journey, I decided to bring in something Malta desperately needed: honest, open, and professional discussion about sex, relationships, and intimacy. I never knew how much this work would shape me as a man, change my relationships, and challenge my conception of love, even myself. It wasn’t enough to be Malta’s first sex therapist: One would simply have to challenge cultural taboos. It made me doubt my beliefs, to sort of build my emotional boundaries and, at times, to kind of get by in some very unexpected ways in my life. It Changed the Way I
Understanding various personality types will help you lead when “surrounded by idiots”
When you are a leader, you have experienced the feeling of being in a room full of foolheads. Managers and employers usually respond with dissatisfaction but the reality is different. Accepting and integrating in a complex team, and the different personalities of team members are what help leaders to be effective in difficult times. This blog explores the four personality types articulated by Thomas Erikson in his book *Surrounded by Idiots: Red, Yellow, Green, and Blue*, along with practical tactics for leading each of them. It relies on the concepts in the book to do so. Four personality types
