Rumours, Noise and Real Growth: Learning to Keep My Eyes on the Road
“Matthew is a closeted gay.”“Matthew jumps from woman to woman.”“He’s money-minded.”“I’ve heard he sees women for free if they ‘offer favours’.”“I’ve heard he’s manipulative.”“He chose sex therapy because he must be a pervert.”“All talk, no sex.”“Matthew abuses his psychology assistants—slave-driver, really.”“He’s definitely a narcissist on TV all the time.” That is merely a summary of the rumours spread about me over the years. Some of it is unintentionally funny, most is hurtful, and none is true. Yet for a long time, I treated every whisper as an emergency. I drafted clarifications, confronted gossip, and burned hours defending myself to
True Leadership: The Courage to Be Disliked for the Right Reasons
Disliked for the Right Reasons: The Essence of True Leadership True leadership demands the courage to be disliked for the right reasons. It doesn’t chase popularity, applause, or praise. Instead, it takes ownership—of your team, your mission, and the future you aim to create. Discomfort, disapproval, and misunderstanding often follow, but leaders face them head-on. Why Leaders Get Disliked for Doing What’s Right History remembers the leaders who made unpopular decisions to serve something greater than themselves. Winston Churchill stood firm despite criticism for his bluntness, guiding the free world through war. Nelson Mandela endured decades in prison, labelled
How Becoming Malta’s First Sex Therapist Changed Me as a Man
Expert Sex Therapist Advice from the Start When I first set out on this journey, I thought I was introducing something Malta desperately needed—open, honest, and professional conversations about sex, relationships, and intimacy. I didn’t realise how much this work would reshape me as a man, how it would influence my relationships, and how it would challenge my perception of love, trust, and even myself. A Personal Evolution Being Malta’s first sex therapist wasn’t just about breaking cultural taboos. It forced me to question my beliefs, refine my emotional boundaries, and, at times, navigate unexpected struggles in my personal
Lessons Learned from Being Malta’s First Sex Therapist
Opening the Conversation No One Wanted When I stepped into the world of sex therapy, I wasn’t just opening a clinic—I was stepping directly into the heart of issues around sex in Malta. I was opening a conversation that many didn’t want to have, challenging silence with honesty and discomfort with truth. Facing Resistance from Every Direction I knew it wouldn’t be easy. Resistance was expected. What I didn’t anticipate was the extent of the pushback—not just from the public, but also from institutions, educators, and even within my professional circles. Every Lesson Was Earned The journey has been
Learning the Hard Way: Failures in my own personal sexuality and relationships
As a sex and relationship therapist, you may think I've always succeeded in my personal relationships. However, my trip has been far from ideal. I've had several relationship disasters, accepting behaviour that I should never have endured and behaving in ways that I'm embarrassed to recollect. These encounters have been both humbling and enlightening, teaching me significant lessons about relationships and sexuality. In multiple relationships, I found myself tolerating behaviour that was damaging and totally contrary to my own principles. I might save my partner by tolerating these acts or repairing our relationship. This false feeling of obligation caused
