Learnings

Trust and True Nature: Lessons from the Scorpion and the Dog

By |December 3rd, 2024|Categories: Stories|Tags: , |

Once upon a time, a scorpion who could not swim wanted to cross a river. He saw a dog nearby and asked, "Will you carry me across the river on your back?" The dog was cautious. "You are a scorpion," he replied. "You would sting me if I let you on my back, and I would drown." The scorpion shot back, "Why would I sting you? If I do, we'll both sink and die. Trust me." Reluctantly, the dog accepted, and the scorpion ascended his back. Everything appeared good as they started across the river—until they reached the centre.

Escaping the Perfection Trap: How Letting Go Boosted My Success and Happiness

By |November 23rd, 2024|Categories: Failures, Mental Health|Tags: , |

Escaping the Perfection Trap: How Letting Go Boosted My Success and Happiness For years, I held myself to impossibly high standards, demanding perfection from every task, relationship, and project. I had this unrelenting drive to result in success. Instead, it resulted in exhaustion, irritation, and unhappiness. As I got more focused on achieving flawless results, I realised that perfectionism was not an asset but an addictive loop that sapped my energy and that of others. My turning point came when I read Marion Woodman's Addiction to Perfection. Woodman's work provides important insights into the dark side of perfectionism, examining

Ending the Trap: How Putting Myself First Increased My Performance at Work

By |October 29th, 2024|Categories: Failures|Tags: , |

For a long time, I had the misconception that working nonstop was the key to success. I sacrificed my relationships, mental health, and equilibrium in the process of pushing myself to my limits in pursuit of my professional aspirations. While I accomplished a lot, I should have paid more attention to the people and experiences that really mattered because I was too preoccupied with getting things done. I learned with time that success at the expense of one's health couldn’t be maintained. My mornings look drastically different now. At five in the morning, I make it a point to

I Was Over-Critical of Myself

By |September 4th, 2024|Categories: Failures, Mental Health|Tags: , |

I brutally punished myself for a significant portion of my life. No matter how hard I tried, my inner critic would always find something new to point out about how inadequate I was. This extremely critical voice impacted my entire life, affecting my sense of self-worth and self-esteem, as well as my ability to accomplish any goal I set. I felt trapped in an endless loop of negativity due to the severe self-criticism I had developed. As a child, I had high expectations for myself, believing that nothing less than perfection would suffice. My brain and grades gave me

Loneliness in Management: Overcoming and Comprehending the Silent Struggle

By |July 19th, 2024|Categories: Entrepreneurship, Relationships|Tags: , , |

In the fast-paced business environment, management positions frequently offer the potential for professional fulfilment, responsibility, and prestige. Nevertheless, numerous managers face a mute and pervasive issue: loneliness. Loneliness is concealed beneath the façade of success and authority. This blog delves into the distinctive factors that contribute to loneliness in management positions, its adverse effects on mental fitness and performance, and the strategies that can be employed to address this frequently forgotten challenge. Although loneliness can affect anyone, individuals in managerial roles encounter unique obstacles that exacerbate feelings of isolation. Managers are frequently responsible for making challenging decisions that significantly

Blinded by Expectations: My Failure to Appreciate My Parents

By |July 19th, 2024|Categories: Failures, Relationships|Tags: , , |

For many years, I fiercely condemned my parents and emphasised their imperfections. I concentrated on what they didn't know. I focused on what they should have done. I was so focused on the harm created by their omissions. I was disappointed. I wanted better. I expected better. When I went to friends' houses, I compared how other parents were. I compared various aspects of others with features I did not enjoy in my parents. Growing up, I sometimes underestimated the importance of the teachings and values that my parents instilled in me. As a young adult, I found their

Learning the Hard Way: Failures in my own personal sexuality and relationships

By |July 11th, 2024|Categories: Failures, Relationships|Tags: , , , |

As a sex and relationship therapist, you may think I've always succeeded in my personal relationships. However, my trip has been far from ideal. I've had several relationship disasters, accepting behaviour that I should never have endured and behaving in ways that I'm embarrassed to recollect. These encounters have been both humbling and enlightening, teaching me significant lessons about relationships and sexuality. In multiple relationships, I found myself tolerating behaviour that was damaging and totally contrary to my own principles. I might save my partner by tolerating these acts or repairing our relationship. This false feeling of obligation caused

Rushed Decisions: The Downfall of Ignoring My Gut in Entrepreneurship

By |July 10th, 2024|Categories: Entrepreneurship, Failures|Tags: , |

As an entrepreneur, I’ve had countless failures, many resulting from not following my instincts and making rushed judgements. These encounters have been some of my professional career’s most challenging yet transformational times. Ignoring my gut feelings One of my most critical mistakes was not believing my gut instincts. Throughout my entrepreneurial career, my intuition alerted me to possible hazards. However, motivated by ambition and a desire for immediate achievement, I frequently ignored these internal cautions. I vividly recall times when my gut instinct warned caution, but I opted to persist, sure that my aims would outweigh any hazards. Hasty