Learning to Let Go: A Lesson in Life and Professional Growth
This is not a piece for you to use to justify giving up and quitting without trying. This is about those moments when you know you gave it your all and are struggling to admit it. One of the most challenging things to learn is to let go. I was unable to break the vicious cycle of attempting to breathe new life into things that had long since lost their relevance to me. Whether in my personal relationships or my career, I wasted a lot of effort clinging on when I should have been releasing. It's the kind of
Training Yourself to Become Anti-Fragile: The Neuropsychology of Resilience
Resilience, the ability to bounce back from adversity, is crucial for overcoming life's challenges. However, the concept of anti-fragility—the ability not just to withstand adversity but to thrive and become stronger in the face of it—has recently gained significant attention. Understanding the neuropsychology behind resilience and learning strategies to become anti-fragile can greatly enhance our capacity to excel under pressure. The Science Behind Resilience Resilience is rooted in various neurobiological mechanisms involving key brain regions and neurotransmitter systems. The amygdala, hippocampus, and prefrontal cortex play pivotal roles in regulating emotional responses and managing stress. Prefrontal Cortex: This region is
I Was Over-Critical of Myself
I brutally punished myself for a significant portion of my life. No matter how hard I tried, my inner critic would always find something new to point out about how inadequate I was. This extremely critical voice impacted my entire life, affecting my sense of self-worth and self-esteem, as well as my ability to accomplish any goal I set. I felt trapped in an endless loop of negativity due to the severe self-criticism I had developed. As a child, I had high expectations for myself, believing that nothing less than perfection would suffice. My brain and grades gave me
Narcissism in Management
Narcissism in management is a multifaceted and intricate phenomenon. Although it is frequently linked to detrimental characteristics such as arrogance and manipulativeness, specific narcissistic characteristics can also contribute favourably to organisational success and leadership. This blog offers a perspective on narcissism in management grounded in evidence, emphasising both the advantages and disadvantages. Narcissism is distinguished by a lack of empathy, a need for admiration, and grandiosity. In the context of management, these characteristics can be expressed in various ways, affecting the organisation's dynamics and the manager's behaviour. Narcissistic managers frequently exhibit a high degree of confidence and charisma, which
Loneliness in Management: Overcoming and Comprehending the Silent Struggle
In the fast-paced business environment, management positions frequently offer the potential for professional fulfilment, responsibility, and prestige. Nevertheless, numerous managers face a mute and pervasive issue: loneliness. Loneliness is concealed beneath the façade of success and authority. This blog delves into the distinctive factors that contribute to loneliness in management positions, its adverse effects on mental fitness and performance, and the strategies that can be employed to address this frequently forgotten challenge. Although loneliness can affect anyone, individuals in managerial roles encounter unique obstacles that exacerbate feelings of isolation. Managers are frequently responsible for making challenging decisions that significantly
Blinded by Expectations: My Failure to Appreciate My Parents
For many years, I fiercely condemned my parents and emphasised their imperfections. I concentrated on what they didn't know. I focused on what they should have done. I was so focused on the harm created by their omissions. I was disappointed. I wanted better. I expected better. When I went to friends' houses, I compared how other parents were. I compared various aspects of others with features I did not enjoy in my parents. Growing up, I sometimes underestimated the importance of the teachings and values that my parents instilled in me. As a young adult, I found their
Manager’s Morning Brew
Commence your week with a breakfast meeting that is both purposeful and energising for HR professionals and supervisors. These events will serve as a forum for examining various topics essential for an organisation's success and effective leadership. The following are ten themes that will serve as a framework for your discussions: 1. Developing Anti-Fragility and Resilience Investigate methods for cultivating an anti-fragile mindset and enhancing team resilience to enable the organisation to flourish in the face of adversity. 2. Leadership and Emotional Intelligence Examine the significance of emotional intelligence in the management of organisations, improving communication, and enhancing leadership
Self-Forgiveness: A Path to Personal Development and Recovery
Throughout our lives, we frequently experience instances in which we fail to meet our expectations. We often confront the heavy burden of guilt and self-criticism due to our repeated errors. Self-forgiveness is essential to mental fitness and personal development, yet it is frequently disregarded. As a psychotherapist and trainer, I have observed the transformative force of self-forgiveness in the lives of my clients and myself. This blog explores the significance of self-forgiveness, the obstacles that arise, and the practical steps to adopt self-compassion. Self-forgiveness is essential There are numerous reasons why self-forgiveness is essential. Initially, it enables individuals to
The Path to Genuine Resilience: Adopting Antifragility
My life and the lives of the people I work with have taught me that the notion of resilience is no longer adequate in a world that is perpetually changing and presenting new challenges. The conventional concept of resilience, which involves returning to a previous state following a setback, must help individuals navigate the intricacies and uncertainties of contemporary life. We must instead endeavour to achieve antifragility, a concept that Nassim Nicholas Taleb introduced in his book "Antifragile: Things That Gain from Disorder." Antifragility surpasses mundane resilience by flourishing and fortifying itself in adversity. As an entrepreneur, trainer, and
Learning the Hard Way: Failures in my own personal sexuality and relationships
As a sex and relationship therapist, you may think I've always succeeded in my personal relationships. However, my trip has been far from ideal. I've had several relationship disasters, accepting behaviour that I should never have endured and behaving in ways that I'm embarrassed to recollect. These encounters have been both humbling and enlightening, teaching me significant lessons about relationships and sexuality. In multiple relationships, I found myself tolerating behaviour that was damaging and totally contrary to my own principles. I might save my partner by tolerating these acts or repairing our relationship. This false feeling of obligation caused
